In the process of educating children, parents should not say child intimidation because in the long run, it will instill a feeling of insecurity for children.
Tieu Vu is 3 years old, she often cries and refuses to follow her mother to the kindergarten. Ms. Li did not know how to coax up telling ghost stories scare me, she said: ” If you do not listen to mother or child will be ghosts to capture.” Tieu Vu is young, she does not understand what ghost is but she still feels scared.
Later, the young teacher reflected on Ms. Li that at noon, Xiao Yu would not sleep. When the teacher asked the reason, Little Tieu Vu said: ” I dare not sleep because I am afraid that ghosts will come and arrest me.” The teacher affirmed to Xiao Wu, that there is no ghost in this world, but Little Xiao Yu insists on not believing and she has no sense of security.
This story reminds parents, in the process of educating their children, parents should not say words that scare them. This will affect children’s psychology and make them scared. If children often say the following 3 sentences, they show that they lack a sense of security and need their attention.
1. “It’s too dark, I can’t sleep!”
Mom waited for her to sleep completely before she should leave the room (Artwork).
When a child reaches a certain age, she will forge her independence by letting her sleep alone. However, changing habits is not easy, children have been used to sleeping in the same room with their mother and having their mother comforting them.
When children leave their mother’s embrace, they will feel afraid of the night and have trouble sleeping. This will affect the quality of your baby’s sleep. The first step you should take is to pat, comfort your child by telling stories to them. After that, she waited for her to sleep completely before leaving the room. Over time, children will gradually get used to sleeping alone.
2. “Don’t leave me!”
She needs to find out why she doesn’t want to leave her mother’s arms (Artwork).
When the mother takes the child to the nursery, the child will hold her hand and cry: ” Don’t leave me “. At this time, she should choose comfort and comfort. If the child strongly resists not wanting to go to kindergarten, she needs to ask the reason why she doesn’t want to go to kindergarten.
The reason may be that children are bullied by their friends or they are unfamiliar with something. If the mother does not ask the reason, the problem will still exist and cannot be solved. The consequence of this is that children develop a sense of fear when they go to school, not only affecting their academic achievement but also affecting their maturity.
3. “Don’t parents argue!”
Parents need to adhere to the implicit principle of not quarreling in front of children (Artwork).
In marriage, many couples cannot avoid conflicts and fierce quarrels in front of their children. This is not good and adversely affects children. Parents need to adhere to the implicit principle of not quarreling in front of children.
Parents always think that children are young so they don’t understand. In fact, whenever parents argue, those who suffer a lot of damage are young, very sensitive children, children will be frightened when they think about the situation where their parents are separated and the person who is left out is young. What parents need to do when there is conflict is to calmly reconcile and avoid conflict in front of children.